In the cognitive principle matrix there are two self's, namely, the real self and the expressed self. The real self is the person who has made mistakes, but does not taken them personally and has stayed their authentic self. The real self evolves as we growth through making mistakes, but not taking them personally and…
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Sadness is part of the loss process, but loneliness isn’t.
Negative emotions protect your boundary and keep you safe. Cognitive principle matrix states that fear, anger or sadness are normal emotions resulting from the loss of some form of attachment. When a person cannot successful pass through the remainder of the steps, then loneliness can occur. The remaining steps after sadness are: Critical- That is,…
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Adult Attachment Theory- A simple view
Adult Attachment Theory- CPM view According to the Cognitive Principle Matrix, if a child experiences dysfunctional attachment with its caregivers, then four basic personality styles will develop and continue into adulthood, unless the dysfunction is resolved. The amount of awareness and resilience that a child has will determine the degree to which the dysfunction…
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Have you left it too late for couples counselling?
When there is more negativity in the relationship than just anger. David Matsumoto, a professor of psychology at San Francisco State who studies negative emotions, states: “The emotions of anger, contempt, disgust, fear and sadness may sometimes seem to overlap, however, each exhibits distinctive properties. Anger is elicited when one feels a goal is…
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