Domestic Violence-By a couple who say they care for each other.

I counsel approximately 120 new clients per year mandated to do an anger course. In about 10% of cases both parties will say they care for each other. There are normally two problems:

1. A "5 love language" problem.

Normally the male providing acts of service and gifts, with the female partner wanting quality time and words of affirmation. The male is not appreciated for his "caring" and is verbally abusive to his partner.

2. A "problem of context".

The male partner has trust issues and is jealous. The female partner holds back information based on her past relationships because she does not like conflict [based on an abusive father]. She omits minor issues from past and he thinks it is lying, she cannot be trusted and that she will cheat on him.